I can feel that, yes.

I have no intention of trying to order you around. For one, she'd be pissed. For another, I can make my own shadow clones for whatever I need. I would only mess with you if you gave me a reason to, and with our mutual care for Choco -- that's what she goes by these days, Choco Korone -- it would have to be a very good reason.

I can't speak to any charming effect. If there is one, it's not intentional. I can control shadows but it's an active process, I normally have to do it on purpose.