[ Saya blinks and tries to change mental direction abruptly. ]
Mmhmm. I have lots of partners. Some of it is that I'm not human. [ Her species has odd mating instincts that don't lend themselves to monogamy. On her world she felt very bound up in trying to be as human as possible so buried the impulse along with all her Chiropteran instincts (even so there were moments of being attracted to more than one person), but: ] Some of it is that the last place I was shaped a lot of my personality, it was very hookup-friendly and encouraged this sort of thing. Closed relationships were less common than open ones. Some of it is that I like being close to many people and I prefer to let feelings develop without restricting anyone.
Everyone knows about it so no one's being taken advantage of, if that's your worry. My husband and Red Son are friends.
As for how it works... it takes some communication. And making sure I make time for everyone, which I don't find difficult. Establishing and sticking to everyone's boundaries.
[ This all might seem terribly complicated to someone who never dated. It's relationships set to expert. But to Saya it's just not a big deal. ]
I can respect people who want to be monogamous, I just couldn't see myself doing that. [ Her husband is special but all of her relationships are special. She couldn't possibly choose one as the most important. ]
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Mmhmm. I have lots of partners. Some of it is that I'm not human. [ Her species has odd mating instincts that don't lend themselves to monogamy. On her world she felt very bound up in trying to be as human as possible so buried the impulse along with all her Chiropteran instincts (even so there were moments of being attracted to more than one person), but: ] Some of it is that the last place I was shaped a lot of my personality, it was very hookup-friendly and encouraged this sort of thing. Closed relationships were less common than open ones. Some of it is that I like being close to many people and I prefer to let feelings develop without restricting anyone.
Everyone knows about it so no one's being taken advantage of, if that's your worry. My husband and Red Son are friends.
As for how it works... it takes some communication. And making sure I make time for everyone, which I don't find difficult. Establishing and sticking to everyone's boundaries.
[ This all might seem terribly complicated to someone who never dated. It's relationships set to expert. But to Saya it's just not a big deal. ]
I can respect people who want to be monogamous, I just couldn't see myself doing that. [ Her husband is special but all of her relationships are special. She couldn't possibly choose one as the most important. ]